As human beings, women have been given the special assignment to nurture life inside their wombs, where they feed, love, and pamper until a baby is ready to be born. This task makes mothers truly special and entirely worthy of the honor the day brings.
Life is precious in all its manifestations, and even though every mother dreams of having the most perfect child on earth, one of the most amazing lessons that motherhood brings is that perfection doesn’t exist.
The only perfect thing we come to know is that, even in their imperfections, weakness, and strengths, our children will be always perfect to us.
Many mothers are surprised by life when their dream child arrives with something extra or something less, that changes our well-crafted plans. It may be an extra chromosome, as in my case, or it could be a missing one in others. That genetic material in a lesser or a greater amount, makes the title of our child longer as we refer to them as “a child with..”, but never makes them less than perfect, even though not every parent will notice this from the beginning.
Some other diagnoses don’t happen at the time of birth, showing up eventually after some months or years, as a result of a neurological condition or another syndrome. Autism is one of them and touches the lives of 1 out of every 65 kids under 3 years of age.
Mother’s Day is coming, but we don’t need to wait for a special event to say it; mothers of children with special needs are as special as any other. That’s how I feel about it, and these are the reasons why:
- We all wake up every day hoping for the world to be a safer and better place for our children to grow up.
- Mothers of children with special needs sometimes have to fight hard, not because it’s a personal choice, but because we learn the way that no one else will do it for us. Passion and strength are the tools to succeed. Any mother in different circumstances uses the same tools.
- Yes, it’s true that our list of activities and responsibilities may look a little longer. We are often forced to add therapist, breathing specialist, medication manager, and much more. However, we never planned on pursuing these courses in personal education. Being a mom is learning how to tackle unexpected challenges and taking them on in stride.
- Mothers of children with special needs get titles and awards that they never dreamed of. They eventually hold doctorates and are experts in the lives of their children, overcoming diagnoses that once scared them, but all mothers do the same. They all know their kids more than anyone, and they have all been scared at some point or other.
- None of them are superheroes of any kind, at least for anyone other than their own children; but against adversity and injustice, they become the best mothers they can be: the ones that never give up on their children’s needs.
As mothers, we are all equally special to our kids, regardless of what their special needs are. For your child, there is not and will never be a wiser human being than you. Motherhood is not an easy task for anyone, but all the challenges are worth.
So, in conclusion, it’s not having a child with special needs that make mothers special. Instead, it’s taking on the challenges of motherhood with love, passion, and acceptance that turns any mom into the most special and perfect mother for her child, making her child the perfect one for her.